Focusing

What is it?

Focusing is a simple bodily process for emotional healing. It listens to the messages of the body and tunes in to an inner felt sense of knowing. Many of us rely so heavily on the mind and intellect to get through life and resolve our difficulties that we can end up disconnected from our inner body’s sensations and wisdom.

During counselling, we mostly engage our minds when talking things through, and this is often very helpful. But knowing something cognitively can only take us so far, and sometimes leaves us circling repetitively in things we already know. Discovering new insights about ourselves may require something more than our rational minds, especially since repetitive thinking and intense rationalising are strategies we use to avoid knowing and feeling our deeper wounds.

Focusing holds that the intricacy of living is far greater than any concept or thought can convey, and that a pre-cognitive ‘knowing’ is implicit in everything we do. If we shift our attention away from our habitual thinking patterns and pay attention to this inner knowing, we can feel it in our being and let it guide our living.

Focusing brings us gently back to the subtleties of the body. It helps us tune in to that felt sense of knowing, teaches us to listen deeply to our inner world, and to relate to it with curiosity and compassion. We discover that our ‘I’ is bigger than all the issues we carry within us. We find a peaceful space that holds all our issues and allows us to relate to them from a safe distance. Focusing works because the life force within us naturally wants to flow and move forward toward resolution and wholeness.

In a world that seems to over-value rational thinking at the expense of our inner somatic experiencing, Focusing can return us to a sense of connection with ourselves and enable us to live from a place within us that is deeper than thought. All we need do is step aside and listen tenderly to the messages from the body.

How can I learn Focusing?

The beauty of Focusing is that you learn it for yourself and once it is learnt, you have a skill for life that you can use by yourself whenever you want. In fact, it is intended to be practised either alone or with a partner. You are learning to trust your own inner knowing and not to rely on any therapist or other person’s opinion.

You may like to try a single one-to-one session to give you a taste of the Focusing process or to spend time with a particular problem in a Focusing way. If you would like to learn Focusing for yourself, then I offer a 5-week course of 90-minute sessions. This will cover all the basics and should give you the confidence to practise at home on your own.

Many people practise Focusing with a companion. If you have a friend or partner you would like to learn with, I offer a 6-week course of 90-minute sessions where you will also learn the art of being an attuned empathic listener in order to support your partner’s focusing.

I also offer workshops and CPD training days. Please contact me for more details.